It all started back in 2009, when a close friend of the family introduced me to the Miss Santa Clara Princess Program. A lot of 9 year olds dream of becoming a princess one day, and I happened to be one of those girls. So for me, the thought of the experience was close to a dream come true; however, what I didn’t know was the impact this entire organization would begin to make on me as I continued being a princess year after year.
In a mock interview one time, I was asked, “As a former princess in this program, do you feel the princess program is still relevant?” Just as I believe pageants are still relevant, I also believe that the princess program is definitely still relevant as well. Over my five years as a princess, I participated in the Miss Santa Clara / Miss Silicon Valley, Miss San Jose, Miss San Francisco, and Miss California princess programs. Each and every one of those princess programs taught me life skills such as manners, poise, confidence, and gave me the experience of having a princess-contestant bond with many contestants and local titleholders throughout the organization. And I feel that this has helped shaped me to be the person and the titleholder I am today.
One thing that I was taught by participating in the princess program is manners. In my own opinion, I feel like this is one of the most important attributes that a lot of teenagers of my generation seem to be lacking. My parent previously taught me the importance of manners. Since I was still at a young age, most of the manners touched on saying thank you every time you were given something, you’re not allowed to chew with your mouth open, and always address adults as Miss/Ms./Mrs./Mr. But participating in the princess program has helped me expand my manners. One of my personal favorites is when we would have a tea party in the Miss Santa Clara princess program and we had the table placements showing us exactly where each item / utensil went on the table. I think that having manners taught to us throughout our princess programs helped me become more poised as I got older.
Another thing that the princess program has taught me is that you don’t need a celebrity to look up to as your inspiration, and that you can just simply look onstage and see all these phenomenal woman are the better people to look up and aspire to be like. That’s exactly what I did. Not only that, but since I knew most of the titleholders on a more personal level it created a lot of bonds that I still have with most of them today. You may not get the level of closeness contestants have with each other, but they’ll always still be there to support you and cheer you on just as you do for them. One example of this is with one of my former Miss California’s Outstanding Teen contestants, Alissa Anderegg. She was my contestant back at the 2011 competition. I remember meeting her for the first time, and how excited I was for her when she won Miss Golden Gate’s Outstanding Teen, then later became my contestant at Miss California. During the week of Miss California 2011, she showed me SO much love and support throughout the entire week and is still one of the people I look up as she serves her title of Miss Johnston County (North Carolina) 2015. Another amazing I had was Miss Santa Clara’s Outstanding Teen 2011, Molly Crawford. She was the first contestant I had that had won, and I’ve looked up to her since the tea party I met her at. Along my journey as a contestant, she has been consistently positive and supportive. And now, I am so incredibly blessed to call Molly my miss.
The last thing that being a princess has taught me is that you should always have the confidence to believe yourself. Whether it would be going onstage getting crowned, dancing in front of hundreds of people, walking out to greet your contestant before evening gown, you learn to just become comfortable in your own skin and to be yourself. As a young girl, I was so incredibly shy, to the point I wouldn’t ever want to leave my parents' side. Thanks to competing in pageants and participating in the princess program, I'm a goofy chatterbox today. When I was competing for the titles of Miss Northern California Regional’s Outstanding Teen and Miss Gavilan Hills' Outstanding Teen 2015, I walked across that stage with a confidence that I had never had before. I felt truly comfortable being in my own skin and just being completely myself, and a lot of that I have to owe to this program- both competition wise and princess program wise.
Miss Northern California Regional's Outstanding Teen